2011-03-22
In DRUG REHABILITATION / Tags: addiction, being, children, choices, cycle, Failed, horribly, parent, repeating /
Question by TINANA: being a parent who horribly failed my children who are repeating cycle of bad choices and addiction what now?
i am financially ,mentally,emotionally unstable.desperate to turn life over to god.so he can help us
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Answer by ツJessa
Turn your life over to yourself because you’re the blame and cause and solution to your problems, not “god”. That’s just being irresponsible…take some goddamn responsibility for yourself, stop complaining, and fix it instead of relying on “god” to.
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Having god in your life is good. But you need to realize that your the one with the choices, not god. Your the one who can choose a road from another. You need to be responsible and try and put your life together. Life is not always a walk in the park, there are depressing times and good times. But you need to keep going. You just cant sit and say god will make it happen. Get up and get moving.
I take it back…Jessa is actually dead on. God isn’t going to fix your problems. I believe God exist but you have to remember that he gave us free agency over our lives. To make our own choices without his interferance (sp? ) god didn’t get you into this mess and he isn’t going to get you out. The truth hurts but realization is a step in the right direction. You need to help yourself and get your family into counceling…its a long road to salvation but you gotta start somewhere.
If you think religion will help you fix your issues, so be it. As for your kids, best thing for them is for you to get out of their lives and quit doing damage. If they are adults, that means not calling or visiting and leaving them alone, If they are children, that means letting someone else raise them. I know that’s harsh, but it’s the truth. Keeping your kids in your life if it is damaging them serves no ones needs but your own.
I think god says somewhere to respect your mother and father. Unless you were seriously abusive physically or mentally to your children. than it is not your fault! depending on what drugs they are doing and how old they are, kick those little jerks out on the street. If they try to force themselves back in call the cops. wait until they are actually sorry and want to help their mom instead of making her life a living hell.
how unstable are you? I’m guessing you aren’t that far off. considering you had the ability to sign in to yahoo answers. If you come back and read this answer…
Yes turn to god. Talk the the priest after the sermon or whatever and ask him if he knows of any help meetings such as AA. Maybe the church itself has such meetings.
Look on the internet for Alcoholics anonymous meetings or something similar in your area. Ask one of the organizers if they know of any others meetings that can suit your needs. you can meet really nice people there. Just tell them your story.
financially you might want to move to a small apartment and get more hours at work or a second job. Stressful but considering the situation it might be the only choice
I don’t know what to do or say. I just wish you the best of luck.