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Question by SistineAngel: (Continued from ‘Holidays’ column) No where to take the children for Xmas; he left us w/ nothing under the…
Sheesh, can things get any worse?
Last Sat. was my birthday. During the night before, my husband
threw lit cigarettes @ me to wake me up during his drinking binge, & poured rum on my head when I fell asleep. I wanted to call police; he hid the phone.
Our fam. car was repossessed. His boss was kind enough to
lend the means to get it out, however, my husb. used the money
to buy a newer, small car for himself.
I was diagnosed w/ cancerous cells & need further tests.
Try as I might, he would’nt give any money to me to buy
presents for our six children. I HATED begging him for
nothing. He states, ‘I payed YOUR utilities/rent..what
more do you want?!”
The landlord came Fri.; he DIDN’T pay rent!
He’s been gone for 2 days; he does this every
now & then. I’m here carless, afraid of being
evicted, & worse…nothing for the kids.
I want to leave right away to avoid eviction. My
parents won’t help. I haven’t anyone to turn to.
Please help w/ any advice; thanks for reading.
Best answer:
Answer by smackdatallondaflo
Do you have any friends that you can go to? If you do, I’m sure they’ll be more than willing to help.
I’m sorry about your situation, I hope everything gets better for you.
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Godbless
borrow a phone from the neighbors or aynthing, CALL THE COPS and get your butt and your children to a DOMESTIC SHELTER NOW.
End of story. He is abusive, you HAVE some place to go. The shelter will house you and keep you warm, clothed and fed and HELP YOU get back on your feet. PLEASE GO NOW. The police can help you find one.
I’m so sorry you are in this situation. You should get ahold of your local SRS office or whatever it is called where you are. Some places call it DSS (generically known as welfare). Call them immediately!! They may be able to help you with gifts and also food. You can also apply for more longer term assistance. I know some people hate to do this but for your kids….
Your the one with six kids? Why did you even have one kid with this dude? You need more help than anyone on a message board can give you. Sometimes I think some of you whiners on here are just looking for someone to listen to your sob stories. Thats what physciatrists are for. Deal with it and quit whining about your life. Your boring everyone. Any woman who would have six kids and stay with a drunk and accept abuse deserves everything she gets. Get a life!
try some prayer. I am serious. If your own mom and dad won’t help you, ahd the rest of those people in your saga back away, seems there are some items that have not been brought to light here.
I wish i could help well you need to leave him and start over on your own you will be much better off normally i would say work it out but this situation is not worth it if you are not working find a little job then apply for public assistance you should be able to get some kind of help with 6 kids goodluck to you and my prayers are with you merry christmas
Please, call the nearest battered women’s shelter right away. They will be able to help you. Your children especially don’t deserve this. Pack everything you can, don’t forget photos. Furniture and belongings can always, always be replaced.
Children, as well as their sense of security cannot. Your children only have you. Period. Each time you make an excuse for your husbands behavior, you are agreeing to give up not only a part of yourself, but the trust your children have in you to keep them safe.
Leave now!
After Christmas, the shelter can help you file for custody of your children. Most people are not aware of the fact that whether a couple is married or not, the children actually belong to neither parent. Until you have custody, they are in jeopardy. The court will waive the filing fee for you, and there are people to help you fill out the paperwork.
After your gone, send your landlord a 30-day notice to protect yourself from eviction. Otherwise, you may have trouble renting a place once you are on your feet.
Also, have all the utilities disconnected. That way you will not be responsible for anything that occurs after that.
Please, put your children first in all of this. Get out now. They will remember this situation for the rest of their lives, and will always remember that he chose to leave them, you didn’t.
I truly wish you all well, and hope you follow my suggestions.
Good luck.
You need to go to the police and let them know that you have no home for yourself and you children and that all your husband dose is beat you and everything else, get out of the house and get far away from hm. Their is help out their if you just get your head on streight and get away.
That must suck….How r u on a comp. ooo well then go to a homeless shelter thats the only place u can go………And u need food and they can supply……… Srry But a homeless shelter is were u need to b right know they can help