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Question by summergal: Do you think that its the parents fault if?
Their child gets into trouble with the law; drinks, drives, does Ecstasy, or marijuana? My cousin just got caught for driving under the influence of Ecstasy, marijuana, and alcohol; she’s only 16 years old. So I’m curious as to what people think. Thanks.
Well they don’t check her cell phone or her friends or anything. Oh and she ran from the cops.
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Answer by Amanda C
its the childs fault and the parents fault. its not likley that driving while rolling, drunk, and high was the first thing that the girl did wrong. im sure she was caught doing bad things before that. if it were my child. she would be sitting at home on the weekends with no car to drive. but thats just me.
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Well, i my own opionion yes the parents have a pretty high percentage in the fault of this. Parnets can be very oblivious sometimes about what their kids are doing. All of these isuses re very much preventable. Just fyi I learned all this form my mom and i am only 12
A childs behavior is a mixture of nurture and nature. Some of it could be held to the parents and some could be held to the young personalities that is part of their genes. Also take in to fact that the person may have a chemical impalance in their brain which leads them to this eratic and attention getting behavoir.
If your aunt allows her to do these things then yes, if she doesn’t then no it’s not her fault. Assuming that she taught her the way that she should and should not act, and what she should and should not do, all blame is on the 16 year old.
Its the familys fault for not paying closer attention to her friends and their influence on her I mean obviously her friends were bad for letting her do all that so they shouldve made her get different friends or move and if shes 16 somebody is giving her alcohol and you can tell if someone is drugged or drunk so I guess the parents were dumb but the girl was more dumb so really its everyones fault involved.
a mixture of both, although she’s the one making these bad decisions, her parents are SUPPOSED to take the necessary actions against it
Some parents have no discipline, never home and have no idea what thier children are doing, and some of these children are wild and do what your cousin has done.
Other children are raised in disciplined homes with lots of love by parents who would bed back wards for thier children and still end up with wild children who do drugs and get up to mischief.
And its the same for children with a mix of both of above.
I think as long as parents try to teach their children well, whats right from wrong and how to have fun in a controlled environment, and that you don’t need to have drugs or large amounts of alcohol to have fun and to have sensible friends who won’t drag them into risk taking behaviour then they are good parents, just sometimes it doesn’t matter what they do their child does what your cousin has done or worse.
Good parents will stick by their child, support them and direct them down a path where they will learn from their mistakes. Some children learn some don’t and just continue.
Well I can admit that when I was a teen,,,many years ago
I did some not so great stuff. I was pushing the limits. I was a good kid at heart but I was testing myself I guess. I did drugs,,lied snuck out..drank. My parents are great. They love me. They worked hard for me. I admit that I put them through hell and I don’t blame them at all for my behaviour. I was being a brat and no matter what they tried to control me,,it didn’t work. Now that i’m older I realize that I may have done some of that stuff because i was a bit spoiled,,but no I do not think it was their fault..It was mine.
Well at 16 shes old enough to know better or should know better if her parents taught her right.
I don’t think they drummed it into her enough. They should have explained the dangers of drug taking and the fact that when you buy drugs you are giving money to people who traffic sex slaves and support organised crimes across the world. That should give a prang of guilt.
I wonder how your cousin would feel knowing that because she bought those drugs someones daughter has been dragged from their home, beaten and taken to a strange country to be a sex slave. Or that in purchasing those drugs she could have seriously endangered her own life and others. What if there had been a woman crossing the road with a baby in a pram or a small child stumbled onto the road?
To a certain extent her parents should have taught her to be aware of these things but at 16 she should be standing on her own two feet making decisions. She made the wrong ones and now she’ll learn the hard way and regret it for many years to come.
Well, it depends on how the parents are. But, I am a parent and I am going to tell you this. You can be a strict parent and your child, once they walk out the door, you have no control over them. You can teach your child everything, sex, drugs, the law and they will still do what they want. Some kids listen and some kids just rebel. But some parents don’t have a problem with their child drinking, smoking and doing drugs. Those types of parents are to blame for alot. But if a parent teaches their child and talks to their child and their child still gets into trouble, you can’t blame the parents. A 16 year old knows wrong from right. Even if the parents don’t talk to their child, the school does. Some kids just don’t care.
No, I don’t. I think you can only do so much as a parent. You can bring up your child the right way, you can teach them right from wrong. You can provide them with a loving home, with morals. You can do your best.
But parents are only human and no matter how dedicated and caring they are, they make mistakes.
And by the time they’ve worked out their mistakes it’s often too late to rectify them.
We cannot lock our children up, we cannot prevent peer pressure, and social pressure and plain and simple teenage rebellion.
This is why we need to pass on good parenting skills onto our own children. Why we need to encourage nuclear families. Why we need to work on our own marriages, so that our children aren’t lacking in self esteem.
I brought up my children to be vehemently anti-drugs. And guess what? He hung out with friends who turned to drugs and sooner or later, he began to experiment too. He’s clean now, but it broke my heart.