Question by Jan C: How can I show my kids the gentler side of life and get them away from their Dad’s manipulative influence?
I’ve been divorced for about 8 years from my abusive ex-husband. I’ve remarried and have worked hard to rid myself of the drama of my past life with my ex. My kids live half time with him but want to live with him full time. He’s been unemployed for over 3 years, has left drugs in the home that the kids have found, is in drug rehab for the next 2 years and has a history of violence and road rage (with the kids in the car, no less). The kids want to believe in him; that he’ll rise to his potential but I know better. He ‘programs’ my kids to believe that I am unaffectionate and that I have alienated them. You’d think I could get full custody, but the kids don’t want to leave their school and friends. I’m afraid their dad is spiraling out of control and headed for a major melt down. Whatever his failure, I’ll be to blame in the kids’ eyes. By saving my kids from their dad’s disaster, they’ll resent me for doing so. Any suggestions??
Lisa G – I appreciate your feedback. Moving is pretty much out of the question. I own a house and am not in the position financially to move right now. I can offer to the court that I continue transporting the kids to their school, but it would mean sacrificing a lot of quality time.

My ex filed for full time parenting time so the paperwork has already begun. With him being unemployed, a recovering drug addict, repeat road rage offender and other choice behaviors, I would question a judicial system that would grant him the time he requests! You never know though. There are liberals out there who will embrace the addict and give them chances they really don’t deserve at the expense of their children.

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Answer by M
get custody and file child support

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