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Question by Kate T: How can we obtain custody of my step children when they’re mother is doing cocaine?
I have been with my partner for almost 2 years. In this time, his ex wife has had joint custody of the children (3-14y,13y,5y) and has had a total of 12 boyfriends. As each boyfriend leaves the picture a new one enters. The second to last one sent my partner an email that she had written between a friend, where she talks about her cocaine abuse, bloody noses, and passing out, etc, while the children were with her. We called Children’s Aid, but to our dismay they said there was nothing they could do…. they can not make her do a drug test as it violates her rights (What about the CHILDREN”S RIGHTS???!?!) Regardless, her most recent ex boyfriend argued with her that her cocaine addiction was too much for him, in front of our 14 year old son. This past weekend, he cried, and is very worried about her use. At the time, he is wondering if she does it, and says that the newest boyfriend is a dealer according to his friends. CAS has not helped us to this point ….what can we do??
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Answer by elvlayarvvi
get a lawyer… immediately, and go for full custody… and supervised visitation (supervision of the mother when the kids are with her)…good luck!
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you need to call welfare and they will see to it that she will have no access to the kids and that she is an unfit mother! that is awful! you are doing the right thing!
Save every bit of proof, arrange a meeting with lawyer or your judge and get your kids back w/it…happy Tuesday, I’ll be here all day
Take her to court and show them the emails and tell them that you thinks shes an unfit mother.
You need to contact a Lawyers right away. Do not get your hopes up to high…you have a long road ahead of you… you need to prove that she is an “unfit mother” to get full custody. You need alot of documented proof… not just hear-say. Also, the two eldest children, 13 and 15 yr olds, have a right to talk to any Judge and declare that they do NOT want to live or visit with their Mom until she has entered Rehab and sucessfully completed her time there.
go to a lawyer and save those emails. take the oldest with you since the courts will listen to him.
You need a lawyer asap. You need to go file for custody and request an emergency hearing. They will most likely appoint a guardian ad litem. Its not an easy process but you have to do something, these kids are old enough to say where they want to be too. But dont be surprised if they dont want to say anything bad about their mother and please dont force them.
Go talk with the narcotics officer where you live, give him all the details, it may take awhile but the job shall get done!