Question by hollywoodbby: I’m in love with a drug boy? PLZ HELP
There’s more to the story. We met last oct in marching band.lol. I’m now 10th grade he’s 11th. After we met he was to perfect. Were both in drumline,we love screamo and trance. He’s not like the other guys I’ve known. He doesn’t talk dirty to me and never tries to get me to have sex or anything. He talks to me like a human not a sex object. That’s just so cool to me cuz me being in drumline I hang out with perves all day. Well a few months later we had our first kiss at a game<3 he’s so cute and I’m thinking its to good to be true. It turns out I’m rite.. We went out on a date and the night was so perfect I met his parents and they’re chill. After he sat me down in his room and told me he really likes me and he doesn’t want to keep anything from me. He told me about his bad addict side. He smokes cigs and has had 2 overdose already. I almost started crying but he says he’s trying to quit. And I told him I’m here for you. I’m so young I don’t know what I’m doing. Well he stoped for about a 4 weeks. But one night he got all crazy on acid with his friend. He told me and I got pissed. Made me cry. What’s worse is that not to long after that someone told the school he was selling drugs and they got the police to arrest him. He got kicked out of school. He started doing X , acid, coke, ketamine and smoked cigs again. That’s when he was like I’m worth nothing idk why your still with me. Its not like he’s stupid, he’s smart and gets As. And even though he’s like that, he’s the only guy who’s real with me and I don’t want to lose him. Were just friends now but I still love him and want him back.he’s doing rehab but its not doing much. I forgive him for the stupid shit he’s done. I’m so confused!! All I think about is him its making me crazy thinking about what could happen.I’ve dated other guys but there not the same.
WHAT DO I DO? X/
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Answer by Jes
I would keep your distance until he is commited to getting his life on track. He is in rehab now and that is a great first step. Give him alone time to get everything straight. Unfortunently you guys are young, and drugs are “fun” when your 17 so it may take him a few low blows to realize this isnt how he wants to have fun. Its ok to love him and miss him, but right now you need to think about yourself and remember that this is not a situation you need to get too involved in. It is a mind trap!! When he is doing better and is clean for a few months, be supportive if you are still interested.
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just hope he stays off crack and crap like that when he gets out of rehab..i was in rehab once and i don’t do any now,just maybe a lil on a happy occasion..addicts get over these things in time..hope for the best to come..
Honeslty, that is a hard situation. But yet I understand, he sounds like a great guy with the exception of the drugs. If He truly loves you back or even cares enough you should just sit down and talk to him. Tell him how it needs to be. He just needs someone to show that they care. truly care. Be his support, show him that you like him for him. Try to show him the person that he is when doing that bad stuff. Well Good luck. I hope it works out
you need to LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE…
you are so young, you don’t need this crap or even understand how bad those drugs really are!!! people are not the same people they usually are when they’re on drugs
here is an example, my neighbour came home in the middle of the night, murdered his one year old, attempted to kill his wife… and when he woke up in jail he had no idea why he was there and how he got there because he was sooo screwed up on METH
it makes you do crazy things, and live a crazy life. don’t get tangled in that, once your in it’s EXTREMELY hard to get out
he’ll figure it out on his own eventually, you need to back off though before you get hurt
God i guess your going through a hel of alot at the moment, i actually no what you going through in ways. been through alot in my life too.. My boyfriend was in the same situation.
You need 2 say to him how you feel and that your going to stand by him no matter if your friends or more. he needs the support of sumone who cares. because the friends he thinks he has will obv have been making him want drugs more if they take them too..
So my point is..
go see him. tell him what your really feeling inside. and let him no he will always have you by his side. you could do is say i want you back but before we even think about that subject tell him you want to help Him through your drugs.. he needs more supoort then you would ever reilise..
he obviously isnt ready to quit yet since he isnt pushing himself to stop. he cant stop until he feels like its time for him.. thats why rehab isint working. because he isnt ready.
I really do hope everything works out for you..
Give him time to heal his addiction.
then everything will fall into place.. x
Hope all works out for you..
I feel sorry for both of you girl, anyway, yeah if you are in drugs people look you down that is the truth. But they don’t realise they have to give them a chance. I will tell you a story and this really happened. A boy who was rehabilitated twice when he was still 16. The mother is a single parent that never stop giving him support, prayers as well just to make him change and realise that addicted in drugs is not good. Too make the story short, he is now 20 years old, with a lovely daughter and owns an internet cafe business and driving a second hand sports car. He didn’t finish his high school. But I can see his a good father and husband and a successful businessman You see that! I never tells you this for you to accept him now. Be friendly with him and give him advise. She needs friends like you. Who knows someday he will drive his own car too. I am telling you this to give you a hint how to advise your bf or tell the story and its a real story. Every one has a chance. It’s a matter of understanding and love. You can tell him its up to him to change its not anybody else decision.