Question by Rachel M: Is This A Sign of Alcoholism?
I mean, anything can be taken as a “sign” of alcoholism, really. But what about this? My boyfriend drinks those horrid Four Loko’s a couple times a week. It’s a beer energy drink in a 32oz can. He said that if he drank on Sunday he wouldn’t drink through Friday. Well, it’s Tuesday and he had a hard customer at work and now he “needs something to take the edge off.” I think he should run around the block, write in a journal, SOMEthing to chill him out, but he only wants to drink.
We talk about having kids and the future, but this type of thing doesn’t show me that he’s ready.
I’m 31, he’s 26. Both my dad and step-dad drink and although I was never abused or anything, I just don’t want him to be a dad that sits in bed, watches tv, and drinks every night after work, ignoring the family. That isn’t fair.
He drinks about 5x a week. Usually a 32oz Four Loko and a 32oz Miller Lite per night.
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Answer by F Baggins
i agree with you. if it’s not alcoholism, it does seem like a problem, and you certainly don’t need to marry with this kind of issue brewing. tell him to get help and see what he does. if he doesn’t see a problem or won’t get help, sail on.
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hmmm it may be a sign that he is almost or is on a road to Alcoholism. Clearly his stress is driving him to do something that relax’s him which in this case would be drinking. Questions is how much does he drink? Does he really get wasted or does he just drink and relax? It’s not good to rely on something on alcohol when your feeling the stress. Talk to him about it and show him that your concerned!
Well,to me …you asking the question seems to point to some issues with his drinking whether an official alcoholic or someone who is/will be a problem drinker.Either/or are guaranteed to cause trouble,misery and woe.
You be the judge I suppose based on how old you guys are,how long has he been drinking crazier,etc….like you said,there are a lot of signs that could point to alcoholism.I’d definitely go on a good jog instead of slamming down some beers just because it’s such a prevalent,easy thing to do to forget troubles…but then it leads to more troubles.
Drinking can really be terrible for some of us….when it gets it’s claws into a person and steals theirs or someone elses life away.It’s wrecked mine and almost killed me more than once….it’s a real terrible,sometimes slow agonizing way to fade away.
You need to provide more information.
I have plenty of days where I need a drink to “take the edge off”. But is A drink. Not five or six.
One, two, or three drinks a week is not a bad thing. Studies actually show that drinking a glass of wine daily is health.
What would be more concerning is the combination of alcohol, caffeine and sugar. That might me something that could lead to more consumption (body wants more sugar, alcohol impares judgement, caffeine stimulates the drinker).
It is a step toward alcoholism in the near or distant future. If he “needs” it, then you better watch out because that can spiral out of control. My husband (ex) ended up “needing” a beer just to wake up in the morning. Then the rest of the day too and all thru each and every night.
If he only drinks a couple during the weeks then it isn’t to bad, as long as he his keeping it in moderation. just like anything, if you get to over doing something then it isn’t good. to much food, drink, work and so on. spending time with the family is very important. No days people are torn apart by having to much to do somewhere other then with the family. No dinner time together. Dad goes fishing on saturday while mom goes shopping and the kids hang out at their friends or at the mall or park. then meet up at home sometime before bed. Even the school contribute to tearing apart the family by sending home all this home work because they are not teaching the kids inside the school. a persons job contributes to this to by having an unbelievable schedule that doesn’t allow for a wholesome family to stay connected. What I am saying is, if he drinks a few here and there you should be alright. maybe make yourself a fruit punch with slices of fruit in the drink and join him and talk about stuff. stay close to him, help him deal with people the way you would. Lean on each other and not your vise’s