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Question by Captain Mazzo: marriage on the rocks; kids, drug addiction and depression!?
i have been married to my highschool sweetheart for 3 years now and we have 4 beautiful children together. we are both busy with full-time work and shifting gears in raising our kids. i look after them when she’s at work and vice versa. we have very little time for each other; a half day a week in which we sit on the sofa complaining about how we have no time. i feel completely alone and have turned to taking up to 16 motrin tablets a day just to ease the pain. i seem to have chronic pain that i don’t know if it’s imaginary or not but nothing is enjoyable. my wife has turned to hanging out with her ex boyfriend for the past few weeks after works (he drives her home) and i don’t like it. his name is jose and he is a big man. he says that i am not a fit father and my wife says nothing to defend me. they both laugh at me. i feel like committing sucicide because i just found out he will be staying on our sofa for the next month because he lost his job (his own fault). what do i do???
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Answer by The Mrs.
I hate to say this since you have children, but get out. She obviously has no respect for you.
Do NOT harm yourself. You will overcome this, it will take time, but you will. You need to think about you and your children right now, whats best for your children is having a caring father to be around as the grow and into adulthood. Even if that means not having mom and dad together.
As for the Motrin, try cutting back as much as you can…slowly. If you really cant do it get help.
There is more to life than this. I know you probably think you are in hell right now, but you can get out and lead a very wonderful life.
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cuckold ?
You wife is treating you with no respect at all. You are obviously depressed and having issues with the motrin but instead of supporting you she’s laughing at you and her ex is joining in. Asking him to stay is a complete slap in the face.
Things have to change – you deserve better, and your kids deserve better than seeing you and your wife like this. The first thing you need to do is get your own strength up so you can deal with this. See a doctor and work on the depression and drug issues. They’ve heard it all before, it won’t be a shock. Have fun with your kids and work on your own self esteem.
Then you need to tell your wife that you deserve better treatment. Tell the ex to move out. Tell your wife that you need counselling, or you will have to leave. She needs to hear it.
Good luck, you have a lot of your life to live and it can be wonderful. Your kids love and need you. Don’t give up, just stand up and say starting today you’re going to try to pull yourself out of this…a little bit at a time.
Your depressed and you need to get your life in order… Get to a doctor and let the emergency room check you out….Let the ex sleep on someone else’s sofa!!! NOT YOURS….you need to stand up for yourself….no one is going to take advantage of you without your permission…..don’t be anyone’s punching bag…I am telling you right now…get evaluated and DO NOT LET ANYONE ON YOUR SOFA EXCEPT YOU…PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN! YOU DON’T LIKE THIS GUY…WHY THE HELL ARE YOU LETTING HIM SLEEP ON YOUR SOFA…TOO BAD YOU WIFE WANTS HIM….IT AINT HAPPENING-ITS THAT SIMPLE…GOOD LUCK
Load the shotgun, ’cause Jose ain’t gonna stay on the couch.
First of all, one of you needs to get sterilized. Four kids in 3 years is a little much. Motrin is just gonna destroy your stomach and your kidneys. You need to get your nuts back, dude. Be the man of the house.
Well if she doesnt defend you either she is scared of him are she likes him so i would take the children and get out cause u dont need that kinda shit in ur life when ur raiseing 4 children but then agian i dont think u could raise them all ur self that would be to hard just a say that if hes gonna stay there hes got to carry is own weight and make sure she doesnt cheat on u
WOW! Talk to her, and tell her you are not trying to be mean, but this guy can not stay at your house! Think of a friends house that he could stay at, but not yours. Sounds like you’re working yourself (both of you are) into the ground.
It can happen so quickly, the things we long to have… a loving husband/wife, children, a home, a good paying job etc. and before you know it, we have all these things but yet are still unhappy.
I truly believe you need a spiritual boost. Maybe you two can look into counseling, it doesn’t have to be forever, maybe you can go just a couple times, have a 3rd party help you reconnect, communicate more effectively.
Take a break from it all, go out on a date together…. most important thing to remember on this date, is DO NOT DISCUSS YOUR PROBLEMS, CHILDREN, OR FINANCES! It will do you both wonders.
It sounds terrible. She’s totally disrespecting you and you sound so depressed. Her hanging out with her ex is not good. Him staying the night with no job is also not good. She didn’t even ask you. You also live there and you should of been part of the decision. Not her and her ex. How dare he put you down. You need to step up and say enough is enough. Kick him out of your home and tell her what you think.
Wait to the big man is asleep on the couch then whack him over the head with a iron bar.Then drag the f**ker out of your house.Maybe your wife just needs to see you stand up and fight for yourself.
ps give up the happy pills too after you stand up for yourself you will be on such a high you wont need them anymore.
honey you don’t need to commit suicide,you beautiful children need you,you just need to take your kids,and toss away the piece of garbage that you married,you and your children deserve better then that