Question by MiMi ♥: My friend who has 2 kids is back into meth again?
What can I do to help her? I do not even go over to her house anymore and I have not seen her latley but I heard from her sister she was back into meth again. We both did it a few years alot and got into it. I got out of it because I moved away, had a baby. Have not done it since because I want to be their for my daughter and set a good example. She does not have a very supportive family, its chaos with them right now. And I am sure she is not associating with good people. Is their anything I really can do?
How is calling CPS on her going to help anything? I have no proof the children are being abused. Just word of mouth that she is back into drugs bad. I think they have already come their twice because people are trying to get her in trouble for stupid things. One person who called was a ex boyfriend who was mad she dumped him. The other was this ex friend who was trying to get back at her. I am see where you are coming from but how much better would it be for the kids to be in foster homes? I am looking for a better alternative
Two different Dad’s. One I have no idea where or how to get a hold of him and the other comes around and is not a drug user. But I have no way of getting a hold of him either. Like I said I do not go over to her house or visit her.
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Answer by Bill
Child Protective Services. Period.
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Steal her lighter.
Contact Child Protective Services so the kids can be removed from that environment. How she chooses to harm herself, is her biz…the kids don’t deserve that.
Call CPS. It’s the best thing you can do FOR her. If you help her another way, you are an enabler. This is a co-dependent method that doesn’t work…. and in fact allows her to continue her destructive behavior.
Edit (post your additions): CPS helps her because it allows for your friend to SUFFER the consequences of her actions. This enables her to SEE the destruction she is causing herself. Of course, you can make yourself available as a foster parent specifically for your friends kids. Because a relationship between you and the kids already exists, you’re likely to get it.
Where’s the Dad?
Get him to take the kids or her parents or his parents, if not them child protective services will get involved! Go see her and try and talk to her, as a friend. See where her head is at, and make decisions on what you feel comfortable doing.
You can not make someone stop! I know that for a fact I have seen to family members lose everything! And they are so high they do not care! Someone needs to step in and get the kids out of the house and out of her care!
call CPS on her you’ll really help her and her kids out!!!
Be the strong support system for her. Continue to pray for her. Spend quality time with her and her kids showing her the different side to each life style. Never down her but encourage her to get her life together for her kids sake. Let her know it was a hard road for you and you will be there supporting her every step of the way. Being around negative situations and having financial problems, family problems will eventually make someone continue the drugs to substitute for the pain. Be Blessed.
You can be a good influence for her as a good example. If you really care for her, you may sacrifice some of your time trying to help, but in the long run if there too much resistance in her side to change, it hurts to see to let her go and see her suffer, but at least you try to help her as much as you can. Some people want to learn it in hard way.
OMG!
First off, the smoke from Meth is heavier than air, so it eventually sinks to the ground when it cools off (at which point you don’t even see it). There, on the ground, is where it stays. Then, little kids crawling on the ground get it on their hands and eventually the hands find their way into mouths, eyes and ears. To say she is on Meth is also to say her babies are as well.
I have only one solution for this, since it is now longer an issue with her health but that of the babies within her home…
Call Child Protective Services and report it immediately.
Yeah, it sucks ratting out a friend, but its no longer about that.
Its a tough decision you have been placed in, good luck and God bless!
Do something and fast! The kids are ingesting the meth as well!! they dont have to be physically there when it is being used….but the residue is everywhere…..which means that the kids are getting doped up!! save them!!
tell her to stop it is deadly
i would go tell her that i will take care of her kids.
i wouldnt want those poor kids around her like that :]]
You know the skin on the onion analogy right? Phone her. Do not go over there. Remember you are responsible for your sobriety. Call her and little by little peel the skin away. When she is receptive, then you can really talk to her.
This is your 12 step in action. If you feel that you are weak or not in control, walk away.
Bottom line is the kids then her. You know that so act accordingly.