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Question by Renee McDougall: My mum is an alcoholic, she choose her drink over her kids, I dont want to see her again,is that a good choice?
My Dad thinks i am being disrepectful and i should talk to her but i told her if she chooses the drink i will never see her again, and thats what i am doing. Im 15 and had to be moved out of home at the age of 11 for her problem. Should i have something to do with her?
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Answer by Gabriella L
Always, shes your mom.
You have to understand alcoholism is an ADDICTION.
shes stuck to it, its killed her brain cells.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you were her addiction?
But, it just doesn’t work that way =[
I think the best way is just wait till your 18.
She needs to be able to support you financially with food and such.
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a very painful decision my dear. But it soundls like you have had enough pain in your life, and honestly you are a young adult and deciding not to have someone “toxic” in your life is exactly your choice. What is disrespectful is that you are being disrespected, and you stick to your guns! Your father should not want to put you in harms way. You be strong.
yes u should only if she is not drinking be kind to her she needs rehab sounds like try to get her help alcohol is a disease being mean could cause her to drink more
I think its up to the person. If you decide for yourself that you can’t be around your mom when she has chosen to drink, then its your decision. She made her decision to keep drinking. You’re still young she can find you still easily if she chooses to clean up her life.
My only advice is keep in contact with someone who keeps in contact with her so if and when she decides to clean up she can make contact with you.
It is a disease your mum has. Talk to your dad see if you both can get help. In Australia we have Al anon where they help families, they give you tips how to handle you mum.Try the program first and see what happens. I can understand where your dad is coming from, you got to do what you got to do. Are their any younger brothers and sisters at home your dad may need help with them. Love your dad
I am sorry to hear about your situation…I have the same type of mom. She lost her kids too, due to a drug problem and years later, she has not gotten her act together. I have not had any communication with her in over 2 years. This is something that will be hard for you either way. In the end, though, you have to do what you think is right for you…and do it for the right reasons. If you think that she will get cleaned up if you stop talking to her, you are wrong. You said it yourself, she cares about her “drug” more than her kids. If, however, you don’t want to talk to her because it is painful for you and your life is better without her, then you know what you have to do. Just leave the door open for her to prove herself to you down the road. And be prepared for her to try to contact you before you want her to…and it will be hard to deal with it emotionally.
As for your dad, you have to explain to him that you are not being disrespectful. She doesn’t deserve your respect, she has lost it and hadn’t earned it back. She doesn’t respect you, or herself. And she isn’t being a mom…it’s more than just giving birth. It’s a verb, not just a noun.