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Question by myfamilyisevrythng2me: My sister is an alcoholic. She doesn’t think she has a problem. How can I help her & her children?
My sister used to be such a wonderful person. I beleive she is still that person somewhere in side. But she has become an alcoholic and just wants to go party with her friends all the time. Her kids are the ones suffering from it because they don’t have the mother that they should. She seems to be spinning out of control. It seems to be getting worse everyday. How do I help her and her children. She doesn’t think her behavior is destructive, or that she has a problem. I am stuck between a rock & a hard spot. I don’t feel like there’s anything I can do because she is an adult and can’t be forced to go into a rehab. But I am concerned for her and her children. The kids should not be in an unstable home. I am fearful that they will turn out to be alcoholics. I can already tell that a couple of her kids are suffering from depression. What can I do?
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Answer by pixie_vixen117
Contact a local alcoholic support group like Al-Anon. They should be able to answer your questions then any non expert should.
Your sister needs help. My dealings with alcoholics is that they never recover until they realize themselves they have a problem. This could mean losing everything before this happens. No matter what you do or say, you cannot change her behavior. She needs professional help. As I said, try contacting an alcoholics support group and see what they may reccomend, or contact a hospital that has a unit for drug dependancy for advice.
She may have to have her kids taken away before she realizes the damage she is doing, and that is obviously very sad. Have you ever considered fighting for custody? Or someone else in your family? I would think this would be betetr then a foster home which would only add to the problem of the kids being depressed.
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My father and stepfather were alcoholics. please believe me when i tell you that YOU cannot help her alone. she doesn’t think she has a problem and will only be offended if you talk to her about it. I don’t know about custody issues, is she married? but i would suggest calling child protective services and seeing what you can do about this, or some other organization that could help you. if she leaves for some reason, what is going to happen to her children? if they have nowhere else to go, i would suggest making sure they have a safe home to go to legally, so you don’t have to worry about them becoming foster children. I wish i could help you more, but i can’t think or know of other organizations that could help you, b/c AA is for people that are recovering, although i’m sure it would still be helpful to get some information about what you can do and the legalities of the matter.
The children should be your first priority, they need some type of parental love and affection plus guidence so they will not think that what their mother is doing is the norm. Your sisiter you cannot help until she is ready for help but don’t give up on her continue to pray. Hopefully when the mother realizes that the children are not around her as much that may give her a wake up call
god bless
contact AAA for help! But, you can’t help her until she wants to be helped!
been there done that with my sister. you can’t get them help if they don’t want it. my sister got picked up by the police spent the night in jail, and was court ordered to go to aa meeting, i went to countless meeting with her. just to find out that after the meeting were over you would go to the bar. i took custody of her 4 kids, so wellfare wouldn’t take the, i was a free baby sitter. she had more time to party. she went from drinking to using drug. she has been picked up for a lot of different things, but she won’t stop partying there is really nothing anyone can do,with her. you can’t make her go get help, even shaming her won’t work.but, i do know that her kids will grow up hating her for the stuff she has done. my sister started this when is was 18 and now she is 35, she has lost her kids, she can’t keep a job, or an apartment. all she cares about is partying. i hope you some how find help for your sister befor it get this far. good luck.
Hi!the problem you have dicussed has really touched my heart,i would suggest you first find why or for what reaon she is alchoholic?is she under a terible depression?because these things happen if they have personal insecurity.i would suggest her to meet a pyschatrist first and also make her occupied throught out the day.also let her practice meditation(if required i will send her details of how to meditate?)and also start her yoga classes as these are the best ways to get rid of the problem.i have suggested similar methods to a lot of people and i have seen results.please teach the children how alcohol is destructive and also tell them about the after effects of this.plz don’t abuse as it may cause negative impact on them.
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good luck to you & my sister.
may god bless you both.
murali
There’s a good chance she has other types of problems before the alcohol. Bipolar disorder, depression, Dysthymia, etc. Try to talk her into seeing a doctor about it, if that doesn’t work try the guilt thing to get her to go to rehab, and if that doesn’t work baker act her into rehab and hope it catches. Unfortunately she won’t do anything herself until she realizes it’s a problem. HRS may have to get involved, she may have to end up in jail or in the hospital first, but she’s lucky she has someone who cares enough to see she has a problem.
call your local aa chapter until she hits bottom she wont want help