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Question by Mysticamom: My son’s girlfriend is addicted to Crystal Meth and she has 3 kids they are not his, but now they have lost?
everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.
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Answer by Mike
I am just a child, i have no idea what to do in that situation. Sorry!
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Honestly, you won’t like this: Bu call social services. I mean, these kids could end up dead if they stay living in the environment they are in. Who knows what kind of people they’ve got coming in. Crytsal meth can cause horrible mood swings and unpredictable, violent behavior. You really should get them out of there. A social worker will come and probably remove them from the home if crystal meth is found. As far as your son goes, guide him, but don’t push. If you push, he’ll only go further away from you. If he’s willing to put up with this, your just gonna have to deal with it. He really needs to get her some help, though
ah good old love, makes you do stupid things
If she’s addicted that he’s probably addicted. Why else would he continue to stay around her. It’s not his kids. He’s addicted too.
It is might-near impossible for someone to come-off crystal meth without professional intervention. If you want to help those children, then go the distance. Be a positive role model for the children [if you can I know they don't belong to you, but if you get to spend time with them] Contact anyone who might can help their mother. [police, social services, family, Dr. Phil---just any service that might could help]
I have seen family lose their jobs, homes vehicles, boats 4-wheelers and children all due to meth. Best wishes, this can be a very long battle…..
Alright well I’m gonna be honest with you. I’m still just a kid myself but I think you have a right to step in here. First off, I’m so glad people like you really exist in this world because any other person would never have though of these kids, especially since they’re not even her biological grandchildren.
You should definetely keep trying to talk to your son, and keep trying to make him aware of the hole he’s digging for himself. Of course he’s probably not going to act on it, but he will listen, they always do.
Another idea is to try to help the kids. Invite them over and try to plant morals in them that they might never have gotten a chance to have. Try just doing something that they enjoy doing, depending on their age, and always encourage them to be the best kids they can be.
If you feel comfortable enough about it you should even try talking to the girl, trying to understand whats going on in her mind. Perhaps (if your religous) take them to church. Get the whole family involved in something creative that will create a bond. It always helps to know you have support from people who you know love you.
But I stress this last thing the most, if you see any type of abuse going on, whether it be physical, mental, emotional etc, you must call someone like child protective services. There is no excuse at all for children to be going through something terrible when it’s not even their fault.
But hopefully things will work out for the better and the whole family can work together. I hope this helps, sorry if it doesn’t. Good luck
Tell him that if he keeps dating her that they probably will have their children taken away. This is not a healthy nor safe position for his children. He should be doing everything in his power to give his kids then best life they could have.
If you need to go through extreme measures then straight up tell him to leave her and get his families life back on track or you will call the police so he can have full custody. Tell him to write a pros and cons list and he will see that there are many more cons than pros.
If he says that he loves her and she loves him then tell him that if she really loved him…for the sake of their children and himself, she would quit the drugs.