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Question by another day: 2 children dysfunctional alcoholic family patterns …..?
My wife has an older sister.the sister is 40,runs with Lesbians and had only one boyfriend in hgh school,so any of her “significant others” are not really stable or considered a threat.
Their Father consumes a 6 pack a day on average.The entire family attacks and man that the youngest daughter is with,I assume that the man such as myself becomes thrown into the “Middle Child Sydrome” in the psychlogical dealings with their family unit.
My wife ad I are now seperated with a 16 month old Son.She and my Son are living with her parents.Will my Son be thrown into the “Middle Child Sydrome ” in this family unit now?Or are their known studies on the classic alcoholic dysfunctional family on how grandchildren are intigrated into such a family unit?
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A six pack a day isn’t bad. A case a day is dysfunctional. There is always someone who has had it worse.
I was born drunk and high. I was beaten into labor by my father. I have never met him. My real mother neglected me because she was so drunk and high all the time. I was adopted at one years old by my oldest aunt. Her husband beat her when he got to drunk. He nearly killed her when I was 8 in front of me. Then she left him.
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You aren’t going to like the answer to this question. Studies show that the alcoholism is definitely more prominent in families with a history of abuse. Sounds like this family abuses more than just booze. If they are on the ‘attack’ they want to blame someone else for their behavior and problems. Being the Middle Child is the least of your worries for your son. This is a toxic environment! Find a way to get him out of there-ASAP!
sad to say but the kid is gonna grow up and act just like the environment he was raised in.all you can do is hope that as he gets older you can get him out of there .
you can go back some and blame life problems on things, but quit putting everything into a class with a reason for it to be what it is, be a good dad to your son, dont reapeat whats been done to you, as a matter of fact you have the upper hand, you have lived the things not to do!! get past all that dr.phil annoligy and just be a good dad and your son will be fine
if your son is going to be raised up in an environment like that without a proper guidance,chances are he will grow up like them..sad but true..
Usually the children will turn out just fine, if the parents talk positively to the children about the situation and keep them away from the older sister who runs with lesbians, especially if the children are younger.
People have their own sexual preferences in life and they have to keep their private lives private until the children are old enough to understand all the differences people have in life and every-ones different lifestyles.
I would say that your son will be fine if you make it a point to be watchful, and make it a point to be in his life every day.
And to keep an eye on this situation.
If you are really concerned about your son being involved in this kind of situation, and you are worried about his welfare, then I would see about you getting sole custody of him, since you are mentioning this “negative” environment that he is in.
Your son is so young and she has custody of him, and people think that babies do not sense things going on in the family, well, they do.
And he probably is.
I would talk to an attorney if I were you, it seems to me that you are very concerned.
Studies have shown across the board that we as a society are extensions of our upbringing, so in regards to your question pertaining to if or if not your son will have physiological problems being the middle child, my answer is yes, but this is not the problem that I would worry about, as the disease of alcoholism is a greater threat, this is a family disease that strikes down everyone in it’s path, so as long as he is in a home where their is a person who is drinking he will be put at a high risk for alcoholism, and all the dysfunction that is attached to it. It does sound as if you care a great deal for this child, so maybe you should act on your concern and do whatever it takes to get your son in a stable intact home?