2010-12-05
In ALCOHOLISM TREATMENT / Tags: 'soccer, addiction, Alcoholism, hidden, moms', pill, tell /
Question by seven: how can you tell which ‘soccer moms’ have hidden pill addiction? alcoholism?
or are alcoholics? do you let your kids just go to anyone’s house?
Best answer:
Answer by Heather C
Whats wrong with that? No just kidding. Talk to your kid’s friend’s parents. Hang out with them go to their house.
What do you think? Answer below!
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I guess i would watch out for mood swings or the way the mothers child behaves around her that can tell you a lot.
i wouldn’t let a child go to anyones house without spending time with the parents first.
trust your intuition.
some people don’t know when grandma or their husband does.
i meet the parents before my child spends time at someone’s house, and i make an effort to get to know parents well if our kids are spending a lot of time together. occasionally i don’t feel comfortable with somebody and i limit playdates to our house. but i do not make the parents of my kids’ friends submit an application form, and i don’t pretend to know every detail of their lives. oversheltering kids and insulating them from the rest of the world because of paranoia about what might happen is not doing any favors, either.
My kid is just barely preschool age, but my hope is that we’re parenting him so that when he’s old enough to spend time at friends’ houses, he’ll be able to make those decisions for himself. He’ll be the best judge of whether the parents are unfit supervisors or not, so I want to let him make those decisions. Yes, I do trust him to be the one who will tell me “you know, life really stinks over at Johnny’s house because of X Y and Z. Can we have Johnny come over here instead?”
I plan on meeting the parents before I let my daughter go anywhere, you can usually get a good idea of what a person is like just by talking to them.
Don’t forget that some parents have guns they choose to recklessly leave unlocked. That is another thing I worry about.
Some people are really good at hiding addiction. If you spend some time with them when they are not at a school function it should clue you in.
Sometimes you just can’t. You never know because some people are too good at hiding it and put on a show for the outside world. I just found out that my uncle’s SIL is an alcoholic and gambled away the family’s life savings. I would never have guessed it and was truly shocked at hearing this. You just never know.
I would not let my son go to just anyone’s house. I will get to know the parents and trust that they do the right thing.
Sometimes you just can’t tell. You can meet the other parents, go inside their home and visit for a while, talk to them on a regular basis, have them over to your house, and you still don’t always know all the information that you might want to know. For example, our neighbors have five kids and we have spent time chit-chatting and inside each other’s homes. One day my kids went over to play (well they had been there several times) and my son started telling me about a “broken” gun they had played with. I asked him, “how do you know it’s broken?” and he said that his friend said it was. They haven’t been over there to play since then.
The way that i found out about most of these hidden secrets was when my son was a teen. For some reason the parents don’t think a teen knows whats going on and the crap has been going on for so long. Their kids need to talk about it. They tell their friends and my son will clue me in. You won’t believe how many have some sort of issues. It also doesn’t matter how much money they have.
Unless i personal see behavior that would put my child in danger, then i let them go. You can not limit your children because of your own fears. Yes on occasion something could go wrong, but that can happen playing in a yard to.