2011-01-14
In ALCOHOLISM TREATMENT / Tags: alcoholic, chating, girls, husbandno, leave, money, teen /
Question by laundy: how do i leave my alcoholic and chating husband,no money and two teen age girls?
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Answer by Pebbles3
you want to leave the teen girls with him and run away? you might need to sort out your priorities.
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open the door and leave
social services intervention as well as professional intervention for yourself and the two teenage girls..
get a support group like friends & family it is hard when you don’t have money of your own you have children to worry about. i know how hard it is
you don’t. make a plan like a big girl and then act on it.
You want to leave your kids? You are sad! Leave the man, yes, but not your kids! Oh and you would leave them with their alcoholic father?
Yeah maybe we did misinterpret. Questioner, add details and clarify this question.
Who does your husband chat with that gets you so upset? And why do you want to leave your teen age girls?
I think most of y’all are misinterpreting the all-too-brief question. I see it as:
She wants to leave her alcoholic cheating husband.
She has no money and two teenaged girls.
She does need a plan. Which includes lining up employment if she doesn’t already have a job.
She does need the support of family and friends.
Have been there. With 4 children. It is hard. What you have to do (what I did) was first you have to have some sort of money coming in even if you have to pick up a job that you don’t like. Start stashing money away. Get a storage unit even if you have to go to garage sales or get used stuff to start. Start putting the things that you get in storage. When tax time comes open a seperate account and put at least half of your taxes in there that could be your start to get in a new place. If that does not work? Family friends tell people what is going on and ask for their help. I know that sometimes pride gets in your way but in this situation you have to swallow your pride and do what you have to do!!!!
Hello there,
I somewhat agree with Justme, but if u really want out, then there are shelters and places woman can go with there kids (like shelters for woman only in abusive situations, and this is)
I have lived with alcoholics in my life, they only quit when and if they want or need to. Some are ok, others r mean. Once an alcoholic always a alcoholic.
If you have time and want to stay there, put money aside, start packing little things and get things in order b4 you just say I am leaving and still have to be there putting up with his shit.
When he is sober, U NEED to tell him that u have finally had it, can not take it anymore and r leaving. No matter what he says, leave, ONLY if u want, check in w/ him in a few weeks, see if he is still drinking. When u tell him that u r leaving him, ONLY if u r willing to stay there, tell him he has a choice, to quit or u are going to leave and he has to go to AA. But, if u have already decided u r leaving no matter what, then I would start making a few calls and find out what type of resources r out there for u and make your plans. Write the things down that u need to complete and what u r planning to do once u r out. Like what is your #1 goal? things like that, but 1st call for resources, write everything down, because you r probably stressed to the max and u won’t forget what and who u spoke to. I would start your new life, ASAP. I doubt things will change but u never know, I wish u so much luck and future happiness.
a couple of quotes to think on
STAYING ON YOUR OWN PATH MEANS THAT U R ON THE RIGHT TRACK. DON’T LET ANYONE DETER YOU FROM THAT.
TAKE CHANCES, MAKE A MISTAKE, TH ATS HOW YOU GROW
OH, AND THIS, WHEN REAL PEOPLE FALL DOWN IN LIFE, THEY GET RIGHT BACK UP AND KEEP WALKING
you must have a support group in the area you live in. Leave b4 he hurts you even more….hugs 2 you and good luck