Question by Alli: My husband’s in drug rehab… and doesn’t want to call me his wife?!?
I am so proud of my husband for willingly going to rehab after months of really hard times. I fully support him and am doing everything on my part to make sure his recovery and future homecoming will be as smooth as it can be. I know he’s adjusting, he just went there yesterday! But he called me this morning and gave me the pay phone number there to call him, but since other people might answer, he’s like “oh, just ask for me or leave a message saying my “GIRL” called.” GIRL??? We’ve been married for 3 years!!!!!!!! I was like “why not Wife???” He said he didn’t want to get ridiculed for it. I didnt want to stress him out or worse fight over the phone, he doesnt need that. But I am SO insulted. I have been nothing but supportive of him and after all he’s put our family through he doesnt want to be teased by “the guys?” that he’s got a wife (we are 24 yrs old, still young)
Should I just let it slide and ignore it?
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Answer by Gregory M
No. Tell them his wife called.
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He’s got more problems than he’s aware of if he thinks he’s in Wife Rehab.
let is slide..no
ignore it ,,,no.,
leave the loser,he will always continue to traumatize you and your family
Just let it go…
I think it’s awesome of you that you’re standing behind him like that though tough times. But if he is that immature maybe you should think about better options. No offense, but I’ve have one too many girlfriends think they have the best thing in the world when they don’t realize honestly how large the world really is and how much better their life can be – not to mention how much happier they could be. ANYWAYS my opinion He doesn’t want to call you his wife, don’t call him your husband.
He doesn’t want his “BOY” to get jealous.
Okay that was an idiotic thing for him to say, but yes try to ignore it if you can. My husband calls me by different names. I’ve overheard him talking to someone he works with calling me “the wife” and it pisses me off because I’m thinking, the wife has a NAME. Maybe (hopefully) this situation is as simple as that, he wants to sound cool and slick so he’s referring to you as his girl. You are, aren’t you?
well
i have to say that he does not love you and he is not attracted to you.
i would say divorce him
and be happy
look for new people
good luck
no you say the word wife, nobody is gonna ridicule him he just doesnt want some female or some homo, there to know hes married
Is the receptionist hot? He’s afraid you will mess things up.
Each day you should call and say you are wife number 1 or 2 or 3. (alternate the numbers randomly and change your voice so the receptionist won’t catch on.)
Or better yet…move on. An addict is never trustworthy and will only cause you pain going forward.
Good luck.
How about going for a visit and telling the people in the office that you come in contact with that you would like to register to visit with your husband ? If others are present during your visit make sure all in the room know that you are his wife. Past and present !
There may be more involved than just him, signing himself into drug rehab ! Could it possibly be that there is someone there that he knows from a past life ?
You say, “My husband’s in drug rehab… ” and he is not proud of you!!! Are all the good men really gone. is this the best husband you could find? You might want to go to rehab yourself because your addicted to a loser!!!! No hard feelings!!!!
LOL
are you serious?
Your actually makeing this about you?
LOOK THERES SOME THING NOT RIGHT THERE MAYBE HRES GOT A WOMEN GOING DOWN TO SEE HIM AND THEY THINK THATS HIS WIFE I WOULD BE ASKIN HIM WHARTS HIS PROP YOUR GOOD ENOUF TO STAND BYE HIM BUT NOT GOOD ENOUF TO CALL WIFE TIME YOU HAD A TALK WIT HIM
Are you sure he is in rehab? Usually they limit contact with home with anyone at least in the first couple of weeks. I would call and tell whoever answers his wife is calling.
IGNORE IT !
Sadly he is in a place where there is not much understanding of relationships
with things other than drugs.
“HEY (insert his name here) YOUR WIFE IS CALLING”.
“HEY ( insert name here) YOUR GIRL IS CALLING”.
The difference is one is seen as calling for nagging, money, whatever.
One is seen as calling for love.
ITS NOT CORRECT. But then we are not in rehab.
Just roll with it and be glad he saw the light and is doing the right thing.
given everything else that must have gone on until now, this
is no big deal.
Rather than make an issue about this, you should be preparing for life AFTER rehab. There are, again sadly, many statistics which show that after drying out that people do not care for the prerehab spouse.
Please be careful not to give him any ammunition which will cause a rift for a clear headed individual.
It comes down to to a situation where he has asked you to do something which will not make it more difficult for him than it already is. Welcome his working toward sobriety and do whatever you can to help.
I would say that he has not been honest with the people he’s in rehab with. And don’t want to be caught in a lie. Does he wear a ring? Or did he have to remove it in there? I’d give it a week and then try to speak with his counselor and tell the counselor, that you are his wife and would like to know how he is doing. I also would find out if they offer family counseling. And ask if you could be part of it. Cause, I tell you, this should involve all of you. Good luck