Question by * Pregnant MaMa*: What do you do with an alcoholic and drug abuse husband and 3 children?
I am really bummed out. my husband is an alcoholic and drug addict. we have 3 children. what do i do?
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Answer by FrankieMuniz
Shake him up! Get him out of the house…I guess you are not up to there yet!
Um, try to keep the kids away from him and becareful…but I really do suggest you separate and then it will probably shake him up.
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Tell him to get his @##$ together or you will leave. Do research, talk to rehab centres and if he is serious help him to get into rehab, if not, leave- your kids do not need to be exposed to this nonsense…
Take your kids and go to your parents to help you raise them and start a new life without him . It will only get worse if you stay . If parents are not an option – call a womens shelter . Remain positive and optimistic. Do not let him drag you down to his level. DON’T LOOK BACK once you leave !
my dad is an alcoholic and its terrible! my mom was never and still isnt strong enough to leave his ass…im 20 my sister 17 and one 12. he has down so mch emotional damage to me and my mother that i become severly depressed… suggest you get your kids out it is not a healthy environment at all.
babe, been there we didn’t have kids between us but i had two he had one. after 9 years of the crap I left. Get a book called co-dependent no more. That is what did it for me. I stayed through the abuse physical and verbal, the hospital stays, the Dr. saying he has 3 months to live, Funny the liver is incredible he lived four more years. I left before he drank himself to death. My kids were effected very badly buy his influence I had know idea how badly he affected them. Read the book, get counseling and leave before he ruins your life.
I wish you the very best and you are in my prayers.
Take the kids and leave. I know it will be incredibly hard to do, but your priority needs to be the safety of those children and an alcoholic drug user is not a good person to have those children around he may end up hurting them or you physically or he may not, but he will definately hurt them emotionally by being a bad role model. Don’t be surprised if your kids start doing the same things he does.
he needs counselling….advise him to do so
i have 3 children and i used to have an abusive husband. so i left with 3 children 2 years ago. i was the happiest woman on earth. i had a lot of fun and 1 year later i found another very perfect intelligent man and wealthy too.
it is hard to just raise your butt and leave, but sooner u do it sooner u find someone else.
and i don’t know what country u live, but if it is well developed country there re centers for battered wives and phone numbers u can call. i made an application for municipal apartment so as soon as i got it (which was pretty fast, i told i had violent husband) i just left. he didn’t even pay alimonies for 1 year but i managed it just fine. and i found a very good man and he fell in love with me even despite that i have 3 children.
so raise and do smth. good luck. if i could do it u can do it too.
Since he chooses not to help himself, and you certainly cant help him…I would concentrate on yourself and your 3 children. That means he gets the boot. Look into what kind of assistance is available for you…Family, or otherwise. Dont allow yourself or your children to continue to live in that kind of environment.
Leave your husband but ask for child support
“GET THE KIDS AWAY FROM HIM PLEASE”
Don’t protect your husband from the consequences of his actions. He will only turn for help if he sees that his life is being ruined by his habits. Practice “tough love” on him. Talk to him gently first. Tell him if he goes on a drinking bindge again, you and the children will move out because it’s not good for the children. Tell him you love him and you are doing this because you want him to live the life that you know he can live. Tell him you believe in him. He shouldn’t feel rejected by you because it will discourage him and make him drink more. He should know that you are doing it out of love for him. In the mean time, create a stable environment for you and your children in case you need to take the step to move out (or whichever tough love approach you want to use). Your children need to speak to someone and express their feelings about the whole situation. Their feelings mustn’t be bottled up. They need to talk and so do you. There are support groups for family members of alcoholics and drug addicts.