2012-01-21
In ALCOHOLISM TREATMENT / Tags: brother, done, things, would /
Question by Searcher: What would you do if your kid had done the things my brother has done?
Here are a few examples:
– Be verbally abusive towards you and your other children.
– Lied to you about the things they’ve been doing.
– Constantly disobeyed you.
– Used drugs and driken despite your constant warnings of a history of family drug addiction and alcoholism.
– Stole your car in the middle of the night and total it.
I love my brother, but I’m tired of his Bull$!it! What should my family do about his behavior?
Best answer:
Answer by Botswanna
Kick him out?
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Yea my brother sort did something like that.
(He got three girls pregnant, and stole LOTS of money from us.)
ANd you know what we did?
We kicked him out even through it may seem very brutal
We told him to shape up or we would cut all ties with him.
and he shaped up. ( this is AFTER the annoying talks we had with hm to behave)
I have a brother who has did everything you listed including total my car. Let me tell you from experience you cannot change another person so don’t try to. The only way they are going to change is if they want to. The best thing you can do is be nice to him not mean, you know kill em with kindness. However don’t help them in any way, no money, no handouts, they need to learn the hard way or pay the consequences. The only person you or your family is responsible for are themselves.
You know most parents think that if they are good with their kids, you know using constructive discipline, feeding them, clothing them, teaching them right from wrong with love, and insuring that their kids go to college or stuff like that; that their children will turn out right. That is not always true, a parent should do everything they can to help promote their child growing up into a productive healthy young being but in the end what it all comes down to is their child’s own choices. It is not the parents fault as long as they tried their best, and after that it is up to their children.
I came from a very messed up family, for example my mom tried shooting my dad with a shotgun on my oldest brothers birthday. You know what there was four of us all raised in this family and we were all raised the same way yet none of us are the same. My oldest brother is very reserved and keeps to himself, he has gotten better over the years but he does not generally like other people. He is very mature does not party or do drugs, he works all the time and is buying a house and is very artistic, my sister also works very hard she has a full time job and a part time job, she is responsible with money but she likes to party somewhat, she emotionally eats and has struggled with being overweight her whole life. She has walls up and finds it hard to be in a relationship because she doesn’t want to be hurt. My other brother is a drug addict he has one kid and he really likes to con people not to mention because of all of the drugs he does he has huge temper tantrums all the time. Me I guess you could say I was the whore of the family, at the age of 14 I thought sex was love, so I slept around with full grown married men. Then we were taken away and sent to live with my grandparents, I also was anorexic and did drugs. I was 16 when we were sent to live with my grandparents and I was awful to them that whole first year I was disobedient and depressed. Then I don’t really know what happened I sort of just snapped out of it and It was as if I had never understood that what I had did was wrong and I just realized that it was, I turned to god and straightened up now I am 22 married, been with the guy since I was 17, I have 2 kids, We are probably the most boring 22 & 25 year olds you would ever meet, we don’t smoke, drink or do drugs we are clean. I have no desire for the stuff. It all depends on choices and who you choose to be.
As you said you love your brother, don’t let him down, give a chance to him. until he change.. things will surely change …
I had seen like this scenario…a family drop their son out of the house….. haven’t found him yet – they really don’t know whether he is alive or dead?