2010-12-25
In ALCOHOLISM TREATMENT / Tags: addict/child, alcoholic/drug, allowed, children, molester/abuser, Should /
Question by ladyscientist: Should a man who is an alcoholic/drug addict/child molester/abuser be allowed to see his children?
Should he be allowed to see the child/children if he pays child support?
Ariel: I am not questioning a woman’s choice of bedmates….that is none of my business (I’m not as nosy and judgemental as you, apparently). Stick to the subject, darling.
Best answer:
Answer by dlmrgnk
Only if the visits are supervised.
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Only supervised visitation.
i think he should be allowed to as long as there is always someone around and he is under constant watch.
why would a woman choose to have a baby with someone like this? would be my first question.
as for whether he should be allowed to see his children, most child molesters arent allowed around children any more after they have been through the court system as a child molester, so i dont see it as being an issue.
uh no!
Nope!!!
I honestly think no child should be separated from their parents, but if the man is an alcoholic, child molester etc., I really dont think a child needs that type of structure in their lives, whether it’s supervised or not. Maybe when they are old enough to understand the situation and they can make that decision for themselves. And if he is a child molester, did he molest his own children? I just dont think it is a healthy situation for any child.
HELL NO! He has no right to see them! Could you imagine what that could do those kids! They would be better off just knowing that hes a very bad person and that they have better people in there lives then a father like that!
First, you have to do what the court says, regardless of your feelings. If there is a problem–you need to go to court and get some restrictions like supervised visitation.
I can not imagine any court giving him unsupervised visitation if there is proof of molestation, even if the alcohol/drug abuse is under control.
How does he have a job and his freedom? Child molesters stink! Thank you.
A Father who can’t sort himself out doesn’t deserve to see his kids. You let him know that until he proves he has changed and can be trusted, he is not entitled to any place in the children’s lives. If children are seeing a man who is an alcoholic, drug addict, child molester and abuser then I dread to think of the effects it will have on them.
I had an awful childhood – my own Mother was an alcoholic who beat us and couldn’t really care less. My Dad passed away when I was thirteen and my Mum starte
d abusing us. It lead me to become addicted to heroin at the age of fourteen and when I was sixteen, I got my girlfriend who I abused pregnant. Growing up round such bad influences forces the behaviour into a child’s head and they almost begin to believe it’s the only thing or the right thing to do. My Mum’s actions impacted greatly on my life, resulting in me having to spend time in hospital, prison and seeing counselors for months on end.
Knowing how much I’ve been through and how it made me a horrible person, I would never even dream of letting my son near such a person. If they can’t sort themselves out to earn the right to see the children, how can they call themselves a parent? We don’t just automatically have the right to be a parent and we can’t assume we do. It’s something we have to work at and make mistakes so that we can correct them. No one is a perfect parent straight away and some people just outright don’t deserve the responsibility.
If this man really wants to see his children, he would accept help because he obviously has some serious mental issues. He would do whatever it takes to prove himself worthy and earn that right to see his children.