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Question by Vanessa B: They’re trying to take my sons! Paperwork says there’s drug activity at my home,can they take my kids!?
I have 2 boys from 2 different men, my in laws on both sides talk to each other very well and are trying to take my boys from me since i finished a paralegal program and want to move to find a job in a big er city. They make accusations that i have drug activity at my home and put my children in unsafe environment. This is all B-S , the father of my oldest is asking supervised visitation when i have had my son all 4 years hes been alive and the father of my youngest is in a rehab but his mom is the one who served me. I have never been in any kind of trouble, just speeding tickets. I do have a social life that consists of people that niether one of my in laws knows. They ask and I feel that it isnt any of there buisiness who i date or associate with. My youngest sons grandparents live in back of me and are very nosey. I just finished a career program to be a paralegal so i am aware of the law and my rights but i just want to hear an opinion from someone else and maybe some good advise. Thank You
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Answer by Andre W
yes if it’s true
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they will conduct an investigation and you will more than likely have to take drug tests. i know it is a pain in the butt for something you claim are false accusations but cooperate for your children and do what is asked and if the accusations are really false than there shouldn’t be any more issues
The state can’t just walk in and take your kids based on hearsay. The Dept. of Children’s Services might conduct an investigation, but they have to find you or your home unfit before they can take your kids away. So just be careful of what you do and say until this thing is over.
Well a few things here- with the grandparents in the house in the back they definitely THINK they know about your social life, and they’re talking to each other to get you out of the picture.
You need to be completely honest with yourself here. If your “social life” is something that is wholesome and clean, why hide it? If it involves people who do illegal activities you’ve got an issue to fix.
In the meantime, get a good family law attorney and be ready to spend some big bucks. Accusations are very valid in custody battles until you prove otherwise. In court, it’s guilty until you prove yourself innocent, I don’t care what anyone says. I see it all the time.
Toss out what you learned in school. In the real world, in a real courtroom, you have about 3 minutes to win or lose, straight up. It’s fast, it’s brutal, and it’s not by the book most of the time.
The speeding tickets answer your own question== you gotta slow own== the night life should be for the family you have to watch over== night moves should be done at home with the kids, at least until you find Mr. right, who is clean and sober== try the family outing thing on a few dates and see what happens==sounds like a package deal, that’s why it is there business as well as yours== they are looking out for the kids, and that is absolute truth from a total stranger==
I’m of 2 minds on this;
1. Where there’s smoke, there’s fire.
The people you have associated with ( 1 in rehab) aren’t the best recommendation for a good home for your children. The in-laws have enough to suggest that a close examination is in order to determine if the children are at risk. YOU may not be a competent judge of whether they are – you’re arguing one side of the question and are far from impartial.
2. Children are best left with a biological parent that they know.
This is usually the mother. The state requires pretty solid reasons to take a child from you and the suggestions of the in-laws, if unsubstantiated, aren’t anywhere near enough to meet the test. So, if you’ve done nothing wrong, you have nothing to fear.
We lack any objective report on the conditions at your place and we haven’t heard from the in-laws, just from you.
I don’t know whether to believe you or not.
I am no lawyer but I do have a small opinion having been around the block a bit.
So the grandparents who are in the position to observe you are not the people who served you. No the other ones served you with an accusation of drug use…… when they have a son in rehab.
Anybody can make accusations but where is any type of proof?
You have worked to better yourself so the judge will of course take that into consideration. 4 people ganging up on you will be taken into consideration as well. If there is no real proof they probably won’t take your kids but they will order an investigation and have child services to look into it.
I think that probably the concern could be the sort that you are hanging with. The fact that they asked (yes none of their business) about your social life says that. If you presented them with a nice normal presentable guy they would be at ease.
Odds are they are looking at how often you come and go and at what times. How often people come over, how often they come and go, how long they stay and all of that. I have a neighbor who just got busted because the police watch for that. Do you have guys come stay the night?
I don’t know you of course. But I would think that you should just cut out any social life for the time being..