Question by Bethany Stewart: What do I now that my boyfriend decided to turn over his paternal rights?
I am a single mother of two other children and one the way. I’m 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of a 1 year and 3 months is deciding to turn over his paternal rights once the baby is born. The problem is I have no job and no car. I’m basically broke. My boyfriend is the only one working. He told me that he is not ready to be a father yet. He struggles with alcoholism and his license is revoked. I don’t know what to do now. I’m 24yrs old and he’s 27yrs old.
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Answer by Holly
Oh that sucks but your answer is be the best mommy you can be. If you cant provide for your kids you should sign adoption papers its hard but you gotta think wats best for your kids oh and use birth control after the baby. Good luck and Happy New Year!
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First of all, he can’t just terminate his own paternal rights without your permission. He owes you child support for this baby regardless of whether he “wants” to be a parent. He IS a parent. Voluntary termination of rights has to be mutual, you both have to agree to it. There is no way I’d be agreeing to let him terminate his own rights when he owes you monetary support for your baby. He can choose not to have anything to do with the baby, but he CANNOT choose not to give you child support. Go see a lawyer at a legal clinic. Do NOT sign anything giving him permission to terminate his own rights. The only thing he can do is choose not to participate in the baby’s life. He doesn’t have the option to not pay child support.
If men could just “sign away” their rights, there wouldn’t be such a thing as a deadbeat dad.
Unless you had a new guy you were marrying who wanted to adopt these kids, the state isn’t going to let the bio dad off the hook.
File for child support. He doesn’t have to see the kids, but he must pay for them.
Kidnap him and tie him up and keep him in your house.
Tell him to stop his whining, should have thought of that before having sex with out no protection. I am not saying it is all him, all ready having two you should have knew better. Just try your hardest to be the best mommy you can be but make him help support the baby. But do your best to do your part in supporting your half of the child. When some thing like this happens they automatically go after the man to pay child support. And he should, but she is half to blame and needs to pay half the support also. A very big majority of young women let their self’s get pregnant, with help of coarse, then when things don’t work out, they go to draw welfare to make the man pay child support while she sets at home. The women are just as much at fault as the men and need to be financially responsible. So do the best you can but make him do his part. Then when a reliable, good, stronger man, comes along, make the father sign over his rights.
robyn is right.
he will still have to pay child support no matter what
He should have thought about that before he got you pregnant he sounds like a real looser and is trying to get out of child support and you don’t let him do that, your baby will need things and he needs to help.
Robyn is partially right. He can only terminate his rights, if you agree to it. Don’t agree to it.
If he were to, he is no longer the father. He basically is a sperm donor, and sperm donors don’t pay child support. All ties are severed.
If he wasn’t ready to be a father, he should have kept his pants on. He didn’t though, and now he must live up to his responsibilities. That means being a father, and paying child support.
File for child support and have his wages garnished just to be safe