2011-07-18
In ALCOHOLISM TREATMENT / Tags: alcoholic, etc., helps, life, mother, pregnant, rough, teen, unmarried /
Question by Klaxonken: Who helps an unmarried pregnant teen age mother? Mother to be has had a rough life, alcoholic mother etc.?
The young teenager is lazy, I think she intends to live off the dole and have a life of ease
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Answer by purdy
the state probably, as usual
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lonely middle aged men. I’m not sure if it’s actually ‘help’, more like a trade agreement.
The father of that child?
You should give her some tough love and a reality check because I doubt you want to raise the child for her.
I move on
Welfare! Damn, more money out of my pay check!
You can’t make her do better. SInce she has a kid the government will go out of their way to throw money at her and let her sit on her butt. She won’t be rich, but she won’t starve. You could try to get the state to intervene if you think she is a bad parent.
hmmmmm that’s a tough thing to decide. I’ve tried to help friends that had rough lives but they didn’t seem to care that I was trying to give them a hand. So i gave up. She made it ok so far without me, so I quit trying!!!
She helped herself into bed with someone she wasn’t married to.
She can help herself now.
Well, she won’t have a life of ease if she keeps the baby. The state will help her by giving money, but her best bet seems to be to offer the baby up for adoption. There are so many couples who can’t have children and would be willing to help her with pregnancy expences in exchange for being given the option to adopt her child. Most newspapers offer a section for adoptions. Tell her to check it out.
You need to look for a Non-profit in your community or closest city
The government has programs for young mothers and mothers of abusive husbands.
alchaholics anonymous AA
If you collect AFDC in California, they give you 5 years. They will make you go to job training and find gainful employment. They will not let you collect forever. And their allotment is barely enough to live on, you won’t have a life of ease.
those are the kind of women that need to learn that life doesnt get easier until you try and help yourself- she will soon learn she needs a job and a house to take care of child- but people shouldn’t hand her things just because they feel sorry for her- it’s tough but we all have problems and we all need to deal with our own problems- why should she be the exception, but however the best way to help is to encourage her and be a friend
ok, well I AM a pregnant unmarried teen aged mom to be…i have Medicaid, which as everyone knows pays for everything, but i have a job, i have babies car seat, stroller, craddle, swing, high chair, diapers, cloths, and everything else, and what i dont have i will be getting in the next ten weeks, as that is when i am do, for the women who answered “state, as usual” well i was very offended by this as some may tell!!! if the teenager is lazy, then somebody should speak up, me, i want nothing more then to raise my child, and yes, although i need help, i think i will make a good mother
She has to help herself & collect child support payments.
If you call being an unwed mother who lives off the state having a life of ease, you obviously don’t know a whole lot and don’t have much compassion either. Maybe having this child will give the girl something to live for and her apparent “laziness” stems more from depression over her crappy life than true unwillingness to be professionally or personally unmotivated. How about trying to help the girl by teaching her self-respect first and then moving on to how to properly caring for a baby, how to love herself and her child enough to move forward, and how to be self sufficient so she doesn’t have to rely on others for help…instead of judging her and making a bad situation worse. She obviously hasn’t had a very good role model for whatever reason and needs someone to look up to and respect who she can trust to give more good advice and less criticism. Good luck!!!
She needs to help herself. If she is lazy and is going to depend on welfare. Let her know most programs have changed. At least in my state. You are allowed a total of 60 months (5 years). Also, they help you find a job so you can leave the system, and if you don’t comply, they sanction you, (Take away a percentage of the money) until you do comply.
Go to the state government and sign up for free money that the taxpayers have donated for her to have her baby.
I’m suprised that she didn’t learn anything in health class and use birth control that’s usually offered free by organizations to teens who want to sleep around before they can afford to support their children.