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Question by devinexox: your opinions & experience with vidoe games addiction & teenagers and children!?
My son is at the tender age of 13 not yet a man but not a child anymore, so he is going threw a lot mentally trying to fathom what’s happening to him.
The mastash is out the pics of girls are appearing and late nights watching tv and over hearing things i don’t want to lol, is making me believe he is leaning towards the manly side..
Then when i begin to think he is all grown up he does the most childish things and its confusing??
He now lies more than ever to get away with things yet he is honest in telling me things about what he has heard about regarding sex condoms etc..?? I know he trusts me but then why does he lie???
He tells me his homework isnt due then comes up with a huge lie to blame it on everyone else why he couldn’t do it and why he had a detention??? We give him allof the support he needs to complete it he just doesn’t want to do it.
But when it comes to his video games in which he has all consoles but only allowed to play with permission which means no weekdays on weekends for 2 hours he is all enthusiastic.. Now whats concerning me more is that he now is paying even more attention to video game codes uploads from the computer and even discussing how his school project which is a board game should be made from the same concept of a video game.. he gets quite angry when he looses and gets angry when he doesnt get to save the game..
is this teenage behaviors brought on to a new level with modernized technology, how do you determine whats normal anymore when you as a person never went through this as life to me was much more simpler, im 33 and he is 13 but realistically life to us as teenagers was nothing as it was now.. homework had to be done, went out and played and watched t.v ..with all this new introductions to children whats the right discipline to balance everything out?????
and how do i deal with all of the other issues, please share your experiences.. much appreciated
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Answer by zooblez
I’m 16 and love to game the fact is video games are fun. He has to learn for himself that without school he will be a bum. And its hard to do homework with a TV on in another room or when people are having fun in another room. I find that if someone is in the same room as me I work better, no one wants to sit at a table doing homework by themselves so stay with him or help him and allow him to take breaks homework for 2092312983131209 hours is no fun. And seriously girlfriend no games during the week? Ouch let him play for a bit whenever he wants, tell him to work on homework a bit before and after.
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He sounds like a normal kid.
You are worried about nothing.
most kids do that, i know i did. Especially boys get to the point where they don’t really want to follow rules and want to do their own thing. Discipline is only going to make him rebel more. I have an 8 year old and he does the same thing. I just make sure his play time is balanced with his work time. Homework has to be done, chores have to be done, and depending on how he does those things he gets a couple hours to spend as he chooses. A lot of it is probably that your son gets such limited time. My kids tend to get tired of it if they get to do it in their free time. Also, I try to introduce them to new hobbies as much as possible. Just little projects we can do together to make sure they aren’t completely dependent on video games etc.
get rid of the video games & TV. turn the computer off and start listening to your son. you won’t have him for much longer, so make the most of his childhood.
As a teenager myself it is normal behavior. If hes not in Highschool then its normal. If he is in highschool he should make good friends that hangout with him alot giving him something to do besides video games. Video games on weekends only is not the best idea because if he likes them so much he will just want the week to go faster and not do anything. Have him join tutoring or after school programs helps with homework and he will have some one teaching him whos 18 or 17.
Ok, if his play time truelly is limited to what you are telling us, you are majorly over reacting. Letting him play to the next save point isnt that big of a deal. Looking up codes isnt that big of a deal. Its an activity he likes, and if it trully is limited to 2 hours on the weekend, that shows a healthy interest in his activities.
I would reason a guess that his anger is coming in over reaction. This is something he is excited about and working on, and if he cant save his progress, that sets him back. How would you feel if your boss decided your entire day’s work was absolutly worthless, and ripped it up because you were 5 mins late? Now yes, I know there are some people with bosses who would do just that. But the difference is that you are an adult and he is a child.
Also keep in mind that he IS going through puberty, so that testorone leads to a moody tempered child.
As far as the lieing… EVERY teen tries out lieing to get out of trouble. Its human nature. It only continues, however, when it works. Every time you catch him in a lie you need to implement consistent discipline. That means that he actually gets in MORE trouble for lieing. But, keep that in mind when he IS honest. If he comes to you with something he has done, factor that in to the discipline. If you show him that he can come clean to you, and that lieing WILL make it worse, he will be more honest.
He was honest with you about sex because he had no reason to believe it would get him in trouble. And on that note, good job!!
kids should be out side playing not inside on the idiot box